Intro To Empty Well
What happens when we continue to seek love and affirmation from someone who is either unable or unwilling to give it? What causes someone to jump form relationship to relationship yet never be satisfied? Is there a way to end the chain of suffering in our lives and the lives of our children? What is an empty well, thirsty heart?
Webster’s definition of a well is an issue of water from the earth: a pool fed by a spring. Thus, a “good” well provides life – giving water to the one drawing from it. If we draw from a “good” well we can rest assured that our thirst will be quenched. Consequently, drawing water from a “bad” well will either produce “bad” water or no water at all. Thus, leaving the one drawing still thirsty. When we continue to seek water (love, affirmation, etc.) from someone who can’t or won’t give it we are like the one seeking water from a “bad” well. What is the name for such an unhealthy pattern? I call it the empty well syndrome.
The theory behind the book Empty Well Thirsty Heart is quit simple. There are people in our lives that have the power to affirm, encourage and love us in a special way. Really, it is a need that must be met and if that need goes unmet it causes all kinds of problems in our lives. We all need to be affirmed, encouraged and loved. When we do not get the things we need, we end up thirsty. The people who have the power to give us what we need are referred to in this book as wells. So the empty well person is the person in your life that is unable or unwilling to fill you up. Left unmet, this need generates a thirst that must be quenched. The problem, however, is that many times these needs are not met because the well we are trying to draw from is empty. Thus coining the phrase Empty Well Syndrome. This, in my opinion, is a world wide epidemic. People have been left empty for so long they don’t even recognize the unmet needs in their own lives. If you will look at our society as a whole you will see that people are filling their lives with anything and everything they can get their hands on, trying desperately to relieve their emptiness.
I have met so many people who could have written this book. Perhaps you could be the author yourself. The empty well Syndrome has affected so many people and it dumbfounds me still, to this day, that we are so empty. The truth of the matter is so many people don’t even know how empty they are.
The day I realized my well was empty was one of the most painful days of my adult life. The truth of the matter is, I always suspected that my well was empty I just didn’t want to admit it. There is something on the inside of us that wants to believe the good in people. When we have a love for someone it’s hard to believe that Well (person) does not have or is incapable of giving to us what we need. It’s a harsh reality to find out that the one who has the power to fill your well, is empty their self. When you figure out that their well is empty; to finally figure out that yours is empty will surely get you thinking about your entire life and that is the point of this book. Allow yourself the opportunity to question your life and get healing so that you can make a better life for you and your family.
Whether we realize it or not, all of us have either experienced or are experiencing the empty well syndrome. To be honest, more of us than would like to admit, are empty wells ourselves. As you read this book you may realize some things about your own life that don’t feel so good. Sometimes it’s hard to face yourself and you might have the urge to put this book back on the shelf. Please don’t do that. Fight the urge to quit. Freedom is just around the corner.
The emptiness that you feel is not going to last forever. You are not alone. Millions of people feel exactly as you do and it’s time to be free. When you read this book I ask that you go slow. Take the time to digest it and really think about it. This book will make you cry and even make you angry but this is not a bad thing. In fact, it’s a very good thing because it’s part of the healing process.
My prayer for you is that you and your family be full. So I want to give you a free downloadable copy – no strings attached, just free. So what are you waiting for? Download it today!